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Shirley Domer

1935 - 2021

Shirley Domer obituary, 1935-2021, Lawrence, KS

Shirley Domer Obituary

Shirley Carol Domer returned to nonexistence on January 30, 2021, having avoided living in a nursing home.

Shirley was born on September 5, 1935 at home in Odessa. Missouri. Thought to be stillborn, she was laid aside. She owed her life not only to her parents, Cleo and Leslie Mueller, but also to her Aunt Vena, who noticed the baby's slight movement and pounded breath into its body.

From this rocky beginning, Shirley proceeded through life with curiosity, exploration, and finally, disappointment in human's failure to protect the planet for future generations. She became an avid reader at four and kept reading until she died saying, "It's time to close the book." She also made various kinds of art, sewed, gardened, and baked.

Shirley graduated from William Jewell College and later earned the Ph.D. from the University of Kansas, where she was the founding director of KU Info and the university's first director of Affirmative Action. In 2018 the Emily Taylor Center at KU gave Shirley its Pioneer Woman award.

She regretted leaving her husband Dennis Domer, after 45 years together. She also left three children, James "Oz" Wille (Marianne), Nancy Reinking (Todd), and Carol Masterson (Bill Simpson); six grandchildren, Grant Wille (Blair), Logan Wille, Zachary Reinking, Cleo Reinking, Pippi Simpson, and Zander Simpson; a great grandson, Miles Wille; and her brother, Holmes Osborne (Candace.)

She was fortunate to realize her dream of living in the country at the end of a road with a 180º view of the woods. She hoped to be reincarnated as a crow.

There will be a private burial at Oak Hill Cemetery in Lawrence, and eventually a memorial service at Pioneer Cemetery for family and friends.

For more information or to post a condolence go to warrenmcelwain.com.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Lawrence Journal-World on Feb. 3, 2021.

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Marcy Smalley

February 8, 2025

When we shared an office space years ago I so enjoyed Shirley's intelligence, warmth and sense of humor. She was teaching a seminar on time management then and I asked her what the key was. She said, "Oh just do everything as fast as you can."

Nancy Reinking

February 11, 2021

In loving memory of our mama. ❤

LauraJean Hawley

February 11, 2021

Shirley I will always remember our lunch with Nancy . Thank you for giving came the gift of her. Our family loves her. Please visit us in our yard. Crows welcome.

LauraJean Hawley

February 11, 2021

Shirley I will always remember our lunch with Nancy . Thank you for giving came the gift of her. Our family loves her. Please visit us in our yard. Crows welcome.

Louise Hanson

February 8, 2021

I am so very sorry to know of Shirley's passing. We were friends many years ago. I remember her vitality, her sympathies. My heartfelt condolences to her family.

Dick and Barbara Schowen

February 5, 2021

Shirley made a difference in her life and career--a strong woman who bore much with grace. Both Dick and I were glad to have known her.

Trish Hilliard Emmons

February 4, 2021

Carol, I am so sorry to read about your mother’s passing. I like her choice of wanting to be reincarnated as a crow. A very intelligent, curious, and sassy bird. Joseph and I send our fondest wishes to you, Bill, Pippi, and Zander.

Shirley Harkess

February 3, 2021

Shirley was one of the first women I met when I came to KU in 1972. We were both just starting out, she in administration and I in sociology. I was in awe of this Shirley as she was navigating being KU’s first Director of Affirmative Action, that itself new and uncertain terrain. We were very happy to find one another and shared early reactions over dinners at the Eldridge House, with its now quaint “club” and “dues” requirements to have a glass of wine. A toast now to Shirley’s enduring bravery and cheer and the devotion of her loving husband.

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Funeral services provided by:

Warren-McElwain Mortuary & Cremation Services - Lawrence Chapel

120 W 13th St, Lawrence, KS 66044

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