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Shane Lopez Obituary

Shane J. Lopez passed away on July 23, 2016. He was born on April 4, 1970, in New Iberia, Louisiana, where he grew up reveling in the life-loving culture of Louisiana's beloved Acadiana region. A lifelong lover of both learning and having a good time, Shane graduated from New Iberia Senior High School in 1988 and encountered a skeptical principal who outright disbelieved that he could possibly be master of his high school graduation ceremonies or sitting in the front row, graduating with honors. But in fact, both were true. Almost immediately after beginning college at the University of Southwestern Louisiana at Lafayette, he encountered Allison Rose, his little sister's best friend from elementary school, at a hometown party and, even though she was jailbait, asked her to dance. She soon told him to think twice if he thought she was in for tolerating antics and that she was the boss of how she was going to be treated, which got his attention. Apparently he liked her spunk. About three months later, while sitting in her family living room and admiring the Christmas tree, he turned to her and said, "You know, I'm going to marry you one day." This led to 28 years of adventures, long conversations about ideas and many years of side-by-side studying for school and then research and then general interest. Shane went on to earn a bachelor's degree in psychology from the University of Southwestern Louisiana (now the University of Louisiana at Lafayette) before moving to Lawrence for graduate school. After four months away, he returned to Louisiana with an engagement ring in his pocket to fetch Alli and have her join him in Lawrence. They then both attended the University of Kansas as poor students far from home in the tundra of Midwestern winters, and he earned master's and doctoral degrees in counseling psychology. Near the end of his studies, Shane earned the Brooks-Cole Award, which recognizes the outstanding doctoral student in the field of counseling psychology. His graduate advisors then started talking to him about staying on for a tenure-track faculty position, which he thought was just them being nice - until the university offered him a job before a competing program could complete the offer to hire him. Shane then served as a professor of counseling psychology at KU for ten years, and experienced one of greatest joys of his life in teaching and mentoring students at all levels. Although his initial focus was graduate students in his own field, he also mentored students in other disciplines of psychology from his own university and from around the world, occasionally serving on dissertation committees for students he had never met in person. He found much meaning in mentoring aspiring teachers to recognize their unique talents to honor the struggles, activate the potential and light the fire of hope within each student. His work within the KU School of Education's Department of Psychology and Research in Education later set him on his path for the great mission of his life: advocating for psychological reform of American education. In a decade in academia, he collaborated closely with Rick Snyder, the founder of hope research as a field of academic study, who was his research mentor, fun collaborator, co-workaholic and, eventually, best friend. Rick's guidance and framework for providing "a lifetime of mentoring" guided Shane's life and approach to guidance, instruction and mentoring. After a decade in academia, Shane left KU as a tenured professor when he was recruited to be Gallup's Senior Scientist in Residence and Research Director for the Clifton Strengths Institute. His first major project in this new role was designing the Gallup Student Poll, which measures how hope, engagement and well-being can be measured in schools. Today, it is provided free to any public school in America, with the intention of measuring what matters most to make a school effective and giving visionary educators and involved parents meaningful, understandable measures to inform their conversations, planning and advocacy. He also led strengths research and integrated his findings on hope and strengths into a larger focus on how people can achieve well-being in school, work and life. He was the author of 10 books, including the most recent "Making Hope Happen: Create the Future You Want for Yourself and Others," through an imprint of Simon & Schuster. He also was a speaker at three TEDx events, many conferences across the country and at the Aspen Ideas Festival. He was a Fellow of the American Psychological Association. And a year before his death, the division of Counseling Psychology established an award in his name. That's about as much as he would want said about accolades, because he believed that the greatest legacy of anyone's life was the relationships. One of his students honored him to tears when she wrote, in a thank you card to him upon her doctoral hooding that, "We are your ripples." That card and the sentiment behind it were the most meaningful honor he probably ever received. Shane is survived by his wife, Alli Rose Lopez, and their beloved son, Parrish. He is also survived by his father, Harry Lopez, Sr.; brother Harry Lopez, Jr.; and sister, Crystal Gaudin Lopez; five nieces and nephews; many cousins; a goddaughter; his life-long best friend, Jennifer Romero Wallace; and scores of friends and students who were pursuing meaningful work to help people around the world. He was preceded in death by his mother, Brenda Louviere. A funeral mass will be held to honor his passing on Saturday, August 13, at St. John's Catholic Church in Lawrence, and followed by a Louisiana-style house party at the family home. In lieu of flowers, the family invites contributions to the education fund for his beloved son, Parrish. Those may be addressed to College America (memo: Parrish Lopez) and mailed to Parrish Lopez, C/O The Perspective Group, P.O. Box 1881, Lawrence, KS 66044. A final memorial service is tentatively scheduled for Saturday, September 10, in New Iberia, Louisiana, where he will be interred under the picturesque live oaks trees at Beau Pre Cemetery.

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Published by Lawrence Journal-World on Aug. 12, 2016.

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Cynthia Colbert

August 6, 2024

Dear Shayne, You are remembered with love and fond memories. I hope you know the difference you made in the lives of your family and friends. I hope you now have found the peace and joy you desired in this life. My son David is there in heaven too. His favorite saying was "All things shining." I think that applies to your life too. Peace. See you on the other side someday, Cynthia

TRYYANG Yang

October 28, 2017

Shane J. Lopez is one of my favorite professor in Positive Psychology.I read most of his works. I just learned of his death one year ago.It was a great pity !

Fizza Shah

July 27, 2017

Dr Shane Lopez was a inspirational psychologist who brought to light the concept of hope in such an endearing manner with the introduction of a new form of questionnaire to highlight the psychology of hope. I was much inspired by his book Making Hope happen it was a insight into the area hope. May god bless his soul and his research be implemented for the betterment of mankind.

Therese Lask

July 12, 2017

Shane is the reason I tie hope into so many of my presentations for the University community. His legacy is how he enhanced hope in all of us.

Eva ATKINSON

May 25, 2017

I am heart-broken to learn of the passing of Dr. Shane Lopez. He blessed us with the sharing of his passions & research. I want to thank his family for sharing him with the world.

Jim Knight

January 30, 2017

I have met so many people that have told me about what a difference Shane made in their lives. His kindness, compassion, and care for others are a huge part of his wonderful legacy.

Erica Reynolds

December 30, 2016

I first heard Dr. Lopez speak in February 2016 when he was speaking at the Lawrence Public Library's staff day. His presentation was so inspiring and illuminating, and I have shared his ideas about hope and how libraries can serve as hope hubs in their communities with many colleagues throughout the public library world. I am heartbroken over his death, and I only hope that I can honor his memory by serving as one of his many ripples as well. Much love and hope to his beloved family and friends.

Chris Warner

September 12, 2016

Shane Lopez was generous, prosperous, influential and kind. A lifelong friend to the end. He is missed.

Cynthia Colbert

September 6, 2016

I am sorry to learn of Shane's passing. I met him at an annual conference of Catholic Charities USA. His talk on Hope was so inspiring that I invited him to be our keynote speaker at a conference here in Houston, Texas. Shane was one of a kind and he radiated hope and compassion. I am blessed to have known him. Wishing his family the peace of warm memories and God's unending love, and of course, Hope. God bless you.

Philip Streva

August 30, 2016

Shane was an incredible man! He accomplished so much. But I remember him as just a great guy! Alli and Harry, I'm so sorry for your loss

Lisa Lemaire

August 29, 2016

Alison, Parrish, I am so sorry to hear about your loss of Shane . I was shocked when I saw the obituary on social media. I just want to let you know that you and your family are in my prayers during this difficult time. He was the friendliest person that helped me through my difficult times many years ago and was so excited that he married into the "Eusebe/Eugene Verret Family of Belle Place". RIP my friend!!!

Claudett Eldridge

August 28, 2016

Allison, I am so sorry to have read that Shane has passed away. I knew at the age of 10, how special a boy he was. I was blessed in my life by teaching both of you. I was so proud of him when I received a graduation invitation for completing his doctorate degree in Kansas. You were so good for him. He once told me you were his Light in darkness. I read his book and he gave me hope again when I lost my father. He will be missed by many. I know you will hold on to the love you had for each other. You are in my prayers.

Michelle Vendelin

August 25, 2016

I met Shane once when he spoke at a VA center in Menlo Park, CA hosted by my friend Kerrie. I was already a big fan of his work, but hearing him share his message live was even more inspiring. His book is one of my top recommendations to clients, friends and family. RIP Shane, you did good work and will not be forgotten. My condolences to the family and thank for you sharing info on donations to support Parrish.

Shawn Derritt

August 24, 2016

I am so thankful to have known Shane! He always had a way of making you feel that you could do anything! He will live on through the many lives he touched.

Nicole Flynn

August 19, 2016

Alli & Parrish,
I opened the paper and saw Shane in the obituary section- very shocked by his death. He was one of my teachers during graduate school at KU- so personable and taught me one great lesson I use as a teacher to this day- how to show listening skills. At the time, we had to record ourselves listening to someone on a cassette tape for him to evaluate. Listening- I practice this everyday as I serve as a teacher to Middle School students and parents at Maize Virtual Prep School.

Alli, my husband, Trevor and I ran into you and Shane at Limestone Pizza, back in the spring. While I have only met you once or twice, may you know that I am thinking of you and your son during this emotional time. May you both feel the love and compassion of those around you as you grieve and may this give you strength to go forward.

xo

Barbara Barnett

August 18, 2016

Alli, I just learned about your husband's death. I am so, so sorry. I'm thinking of you and your family.

Steve Dandaneau

August 15, 2016

Shane touched many people at Kansas State University, where he visited and spoke on a number of occasions. He was an impressive scholar and, very clearly, a wonderful person. He will be missed.

Gary Clark

August 13, 2016

Allie and Parrish, I am thinking of you both and joining you and the extended family in grieving, but celebrating such a dynamic, vital life. I had genuine respect for Shane, starting at his choice of a wife and continuing with my observations of him at work. Know that many people are feeling a personal loss and understand how difficult the days ahead will be. I will be ready to be there for you. All you have to do is call. In the meantime, I will be thinking of you.

Lyn Brownlee

August 13, 2016

Shane, thank you so much for giving the gift of the Gallup Student Poll to millions of students and educators. You made students in believe in hope for the future! You were such a calm and positive presence. During the short time that we worked together, you always made yourself available to chat and encourage me. I hope to touch a minuscule amount of the number of lives you touched. Your work will live on always. Thank you for all that you gave to the world. Sending positive energy and warm thoughts to your family and friends.

Marcia Epstein

August 12, 2016

"If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever."

Deena Ford

August 12, 2016

I'm so sorry to hear about Shane. He was a friend. Shane was one of my professors at KU. He made an impact on my life and how I interact with others. I miss him deeply; his death has affected me as in his life. I wish his family peace.

Kelli & Darron Farha

August 12, 2016

We are deeply saddened by Shane's passing. He was a great man in every role he served in. He has left the world a better place and he will be dearly missed. We are thankful for Shane and Alli's friendship during our years in Lawrence and Alli and Parrish will be in our prayers. May memories bring them comfort and peace. Shane's love will live on in everyone he touched.

Maika Leibbrandt

August 12, 2016

Raising a glass to unabashed adventure, tolerance fed by pure curiosity in humankind, and the lasting effect your beauty has on my hope for the future. Much love.

Teresa Kopsa

August 12, 2016

I was deeply saddened when I heard of Shane's death. He was a very kind, considerate, and good-humoured person. My hope is his Allie and Parrish will continue to thrive having had him in their lives to teach them hope.

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