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Kevin Slocum Obituary

It is with great sorrow we announce the loss of our precious son Kevin Philip Slocum, age 37.

Kevin is survived by his parents Terry and Arlene Slocum of Fairbanks, Alaska, brother Danny Slocum (wife Leigha) of Overland Park, Kansas, and sister Diane Slocum (husband Jerry Lyon) of Chapel Hill, North Carolina.

A Celebration of Life will be held at the Rumsey Yost funeral home in Lawrence Kansas on Saturday April 29, 2023 from 11:00am-12:30pm. Afterwards we will have a picnic lunch at a local park. Please come to share your memories of Kevin and join us for lunch.

Kevin had been missing since June 30, 2022. Kevin battled mental illness for much of his adult life. His condition worsened in the spring of 2022. His family and coworkers encouraged him to seek help and he did try, but he could not overcome the nightmare of paranoid schizophrenia.

He remained convinced that assassins were planning to kill him. In his last conversations he said he had to hide from them and could not tell us where in order to protect his family. In November 2022 the police found his remains in a remote area in Kansas. He had hung himself.

In his younger years Kevin excelled in sports, playing baseball, tennis, and basketball and running track. He graduated with many honors from Wentworth Military Academy in Missouri. While at Wentworth he was captain of the basketball team, a medalist in the 400 meter run at the state track competition, and inducted into the National Honor Society. He was quiet and polite and would hang out with friends, playing sports and video games. As an adult he developed social anxiety disorder, but through the JobLink program was able to find a good job delivering flowers for Englewood Florists. He was well liked at work and by the customers.

He is missed by them, and by the staff at First State Bank and at the funeral homes where he delivered flowers every day. As recently as 2019 Kevin was still a competitive runner. He joined his brother Danny at some Kansas City area races.

Kevin's anxiety disorder made it awkward for him to relate to people in person. He spent a lot of time on line gaming and in chat rooms. During the pandemic he hosted a podcast on youtube. It was a forum for single guys to talk about relationships with women.

Like many in our country, Kevin believed conspiracy theories and refused medication because he thought it was a government plot. The seriousness of Kevin's illness was not recognized by mental health professionals until it was too late. Privacy laws and HIPAA impeded us from learning about his treatment or trying to find him when he went missing.

We are sharing our son's sad story because we know he was part of the larger issue of mental health treatment gripping our country. If you want to help, put down your phone and tell someone that you care about them. If you teach, let your students know how happy you are to see them. When you go out, thank the server or clerk and look at them when you say it. By connecting to someone in person each day, we make the world a better place.

If you want to make a donation in Kevin's memory, we recommend the Lawrence Kansas Boys and Girls Club (he was a member) or Lawrence Humane Society, P.O. Box 1260 Lawrence, Kansas 66044.

Kevin, you are loved and missed every day. Love, Mom and Dad

Online condolences made at rumsey-yost.com

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Lawrence Journal-World on Apr. 26, 2023.

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An old friend

April 28, 2023

Kevin will be dearly missed. He was a wonderful human being who showed love and kindness to everyone. Why does God have to take the best of us. I'll always fondly remember the time I got to spend with him in our younger years. My deepest condolences.

Ingrid Keizer

April 27, 2023

I don´t know Kevin or your family but I want to share that this is a beautifully written obituary which has been posted on social media. As a former Lawrence resident, I felt compelled to read it. Thank you so much for acknowledging Kevin´s struggle with mental health. You´ve opened the door for other families to have important conversations about difficult subjects. This is a beautiful way to honor Kevin. As a mother, aunt and sister, I feel your loss and your grief and I carry you in my heart. With love, Ingrid

Lanette Clarke-Carder

April 27, 2023

I am so sorry for the loss of your son, Kevin. Thank you for sharing his story. I too have loved ones battling paranoid schizophrenia thoughts. I have no idea really how to help them. All I can do is call them. I admire you and salute you. May earthly angels walk with you during your time of grief! I am so sorry for your loss. Calling family now!

Lanette

Becky

April 26, 2023

RIP in our Fathers arms. Same happened to my beloved nephew. I pray comfort to this man´s family and friends.

Helen Pendleton Rumbaut

April 26, 2023

This is so heartbreaking! May the Lord comfort you and give you His peace, which passes understanding. Thank you for motivating others to help prevent this from happening to their precious loved ones.

Jim Miller

April 26, 2023

I am so very sorry for your devastating loss.

Bill Staples

April 26, 2023

Dear Terry and family,
I´m so sorry for your loss. My condolences. Bill

Leiba Levine

April 25, 2023

I remember him as a young boy . Your words make us all stop and think
In a profound way. Leiba and Ken Levine

Deb Stewart

April 25, 2023

Dr Slocum and family,
my heart goes out to you.
37 years ago I was a grad student in your class, and expecting my first child. I am so sorry for your pain and your loss. I want to thank you for sharing Kevin´s story in his obituary. It conveys your love and is a beautiful tribute to your beautiful child.
Wishing you all peace and comfort.
And I am postponing my work this morning to call my 2 children to tell them I love them.
Deb Stewart

Carolyn Welch

April 25, 2023

My deepest condolences to you, and thank you for the beautiful, devastating obituary for Kevin. I did not know him, but I do know something of the path you have walked and the fear, pain and grief along the way. You are not alone. May he rest in peace.

Anonymous

April 25, 2023

I did not know Kevin but offer my sincere condolences for the loss of your son. This is the most heartfelt obituary I have ever read and I pray that many read it and realize there are a great number of wonderful people like Kevin that need help. Just yesterday I joined a NAMI group that offers support to those whose loved ones are struggling with mental health issues. God bless you with comfort you in your loss of Kevin knowing that perhaps through it you have helped others.

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