Howard Wayne Hildenbrand, 92, died peacefully at Aldersgate Village, Topeka, as his daughter Patricia held his hand and read him Psalm 23.
Howard was born May 7, 1928 in Lawrence, Kansas, to Lola Lida (Schulz) and Albert Jacob Hildenbrand. He was what would today be termed a rainbow child, as his older sister died at birth in 1924. He was extremely excited when his sister, Lois Irene, joined the family in 1934, so much so that he ran in circles laughing and jumping on the couch. Howard and Lois were both loved and cherished dearly by their family as they grew up on the farm, where they helped their parents raise chickens, hogs, cattle, row crops, and gardens.
Howard attended the Deer Creek one-room school as a child, where the six-foot-tall Mrs. Hanna skipped him through two grades. (He later served on the Deer Creek school board.) He was ready to begin high school during World War II, so he stayed with his grandparents, Minnie and George Hildenbrand, and graduated from Highland Park High School in 1944 as the class salutatorian.
The family was an integral part of the Stull community, as his great-grandfather Jacob Hildenbrand had been one of the founding members of what is now the Stull United Methodist Church (UMC) and donated the land for the Stull Cemetery. Howard's earliest memory was that of being baptized at the church, and he was a lifelong member of Stull UMC. In keeping with Jesus' instruction that "if any man desire to be first, the same shall be last of all and servant of all," Howard served the church community in many capacities, including serving as the church treasurer for 37 years (a position that both his grandfather and father had held).
Unsurprisingly, Howard met his wife, Doris May Hollander, in Holton, KS at an area church youth event. He proposed to Doris over the phone while he was serving in the Army, and they wed the day after her 21st birthday, January 2, 1955. She joined him in Washington, DC, where she served as the operating room supervisor at Hadley Memorial Hospital while Howard served at Andrews Air Force Base in supply, eventually becoming a sergeant.
Howard and Doris returned to the Stull community after he completed his military service. They had a home built on the land Howard had bought down the road from his father's farm. Howard lived in his home until his health issues necessitated his move to Aldersgate in 2020.
Howard and Doris also served their country as federal employees. Howard worked for the Social Security Administration for 26 years, retiring in 1987. He began as a Claims Representative and then became the Operations Analyst for the Topeka District. As a registered nurse (RN), Doris cared for Veterans for more than three decades at the Colmery-O'Neil Veterans Administration (VA) Medical Center in Topeka, KS.
After his retirement, Howard read meters for Kaw Valley Electric Cooperative (1987-2011) and became an active member of the Tecumseh Kiwanis, including reading to kindergartners at Tecumseh North.
Family was also important to them. Doris always had a special place in her heart for adopted children, and Howard and Doris looked forward to having children of their own. As Doris said, however, "God only sent" Patricia to join them in 1973. Howard, Doris, and Patricia spent several years caring for Howard's parents, Doris' parents, and Howard's uncle, Roy Schulz.
1988 brought life-altering changes. Howard's father, Albert, died in a house fire while Patricia was attending the United Methodist Summer Assembly. Then, on October 15, 1988, Doris lost her four-year battle with colon cancer. The summer before she died, Doris said, "I have been a maverick all of my life. It is no surprise to me my cells are mavericks too." Howard loved his daughter deeply and although would not have chosen the role of single father, provided his daughter with his positive outlook, loving kindness, wisdom, patience, and grace for the remainder of his life.
2019 was a difficult year of transition as he lost many he loved best, including his sister Lois Condley and his cousin Wilma Schwemmer.
Howard was fascinated by trains, the weather, electricity, cats, and stock markets. He was an avid reader, subscribing to the Wall Street Journal and the Lawrence Journal-World for years. He was a devoted supporter of his alma mater, Washburn University (BBA, Class of 1961), as well as KTWU, Kansas Public Radio, and the Topeka Rescue Mission.
He will be missed by his many family members, friends, neighbors, and community members. Surviving family members (all of Topeka) include his daughter, Patricia Emily Hildenbrand (Charles "Bud" Banks); granddaughter, Maya Emily Hildenbrand; niece, Julia (Condley) Strobel (David); nephews, Roy Condley, William Myers (Carol), and Charles Myers; great-nieces and great-nephews; and one great-great nephew. He was predeceased by his parents; his wife, Doris May (Hollander) Hildenbrand; his older infant sister; and his beloved sister, Lois Irene (Hildenbrand) Condley.
In lieu of flowers, the family requests memorial contributions to any of the following in care of Rumsey-Yost Funeral Home:
· Washburn University (memo: Howard Hildenbrand Business Scholarship Fund),
· Stull United Methodist Church, or
You may also honor Howard with a contribution to the charity of your choice
or your service doing acts of kindness, large or small, to bring social justice to our world.
No obituary can capture all the ways Howard touched the lives of others, but a more complete obituary is available online at www.rumsey-yost.com
Howard will lie in state at Rumsey-Yost Funeral Home on Tuesday, October 6, 2020, 8 a.m. to 8 p.m.
A private graveside service at the Stull Cemetery and celebration of life will be held at a later time.